Do you know about the Four Tendencies Framework?
It refers to how you respond to inner and external expectations. There are four categories you can fall into:
- upholding — you follow through on all internal and external expectations
- questioning – you follow through on expectations only if you think they are worthwhile
- obliging – you only follow through on external expectations
- rebel – you don’t follow through on internal or external obligations
I am definitely an upholder and – thus – prone to what is called “tightening” where I create a new habit and then make it more and more and more and more strict until I’m insane. For example — I started a habit to walk 10,000 steps each day and would walk in loops around my apartment complex until I got there. Or, I just cannot seem to take a day off the gym without extreme guilt even if my body feels really exhausted.